Last year, I powered through eight months of soberness. I attended AA meetings. I read memoir after memoir written by women (and moms) who have struggled with addiction. I talked with friends who knew friends/family in recovery. I watched movies about addictions.
And one message kept popping up over and over— sobriety must start out as a selfish venture.
Those first few days, weeks, and even months are SUPER tough! (I’ll share in more detail in due time my experiences). The feelings are overwhelming because, hey! You actually feel things when you’re not numbing yourself out everyday with giant bottle of cabernet sauvignon or a few hefty vodka and diets. However, with the right tools in place, you can survive and learn to embrace those feelings with open arms (and in my case, a box of tissues).
So how did/do I survive tough days? A LOT of self-care!
Here is what my self-care has consisted of:
- Going to the gym
- Giving and receiving hugs from my hubby (and dear friends)
- Calling friends and family
- Going to support groups (AA- last year. This year I will be checking out Celebrate Recovery at a local church).
- Following fellow recoverers on Instagram
- Taking baths
- Going for walks with my family
- Watching TV shows or movies that peak MY interest (cough, cough… The Bachelor or The Bachelorette)
- Simplifying my life
- Doing a lap around Target (which usually then goes against simplifying my life because who leaves Target empty handed?!?)
- Writing in my journal
Here’s a secret, though—you don’t have to be an addict to need self-care in your life! Self-care conversations have occurred on a regular basis with students I’ve counseled, even co-workers.
Everyone, and I mean EVERYONE, needs to be good to themselves. Moms, dads, professionals, kids, adolescents, single-folks, etc. should find ways to love on themselves. If we don’t, then we’re not allowing ourselves to be our best selves.
Self-care = Self-love = BEST VERSION of SELF
When was the last time you did something for you and only you? If you haven’t practiced self-care in say, the last 48 hours, what’s holding you back?
Pick something you love, schedule some time, and have had it! Promise, you and everyone around you will be glad you did!